Benedict C. H. Wong

Autobiography: Chapter 7 – Benedict C. H. Wong (王敬羲)—A Heroic Struggle for Existential Significance

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly installments. Stay updated here. Benedict C. H. Wong (王敬羲)—A Heroic Struggle for Existential Significance This evening is bleak and rainy, one that brings back many memories of my days in Vancouver. With this melancholic frame of mind, I recall the scene (情景) of my visit to the “Rain City” in the June of 2008. Knowing the seriousness of my brother Benedict’s deteriorating health condition, I made a special trip to see him. By that time, he was already reduced to a skeleton wrapped in skin—a mere

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Autobiography

Autobiography: Chapter 6 – David C. H. Wong (王企祥)—An Epitome of True Grit

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly installments. Stay updated here. David C. H. Wong (王企祥)—An Epitome of True Grit On one afternoon several years ago, when I was alone in my home study thinking about my brother David’s life, I was suddenly overcome with tidal waves of sad emotions until I broke down crying. For the first time in my life, I cried loudly and uncontrollably, with my whole body shaking as if a dam had broken and all my pent-up emotions of pain burst out with irresistible force. I came very

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Butterfly

Autobiography: Chapter 5 – My Mother— An Epitome of Self-Transcendence

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly installments. Stay updated here. My Mother— An Epitome of Self-Transcendence Mother died in 1999, but I have never shed any tears over her death. Even at her funeral, I felt the worst pangs of sorrow and my tears welled up, but I did not cry. I still grieve the loss, but I have never been able to cross the emotional threshold of letting my tears freely flow. I still don’t quite understand why. Perhaps it is because my sorrow has transformed into something transcendental and spiritual.

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Autobiography: Chapter 4 – My Father—The Unsinkable C. Y. Wong

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly instalments. Stay updated here. My Father—The Unsinkable C. Y. Wong I dare say that very few people have lived as fully, passionately, and productively as my father. Very few people could survive the highs and lows of his life without his resilience. I am most grateful to my father for teaching me by example important lessons of resilience. By all worldly standards and measures, his life was very successful in terms of possessions, positions, and the achievements of all his children. He was able to enjoy

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Cliffs

Autobiography: Chapter 3 – The Good & Bad of My Family of Origin

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly instalments. Stay updated here. Chapter 3 – The Good & Bad of My Family of Origin My life can be best understood from the intersection of three larger stories: The larger drama of the contemporary Chinese history of wars and the Chinese Diaspora. My adult life represents the fears and hopes of millions of overseas Chinese struggling to survive and take root in a foreign land amid discrimination and prejudice. The long history of my family of origin and ancestors. I carry not only their genes,

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Winter in Chinatown

Autobiography: Chapter 2 – My Country, My People, & My Identity

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly instalments. Stay updated here. Chapter 2 – My Country, My People, & My Identity In order to make sense of who I am and what drives me, I need to return to my roots—to go back to the time and place where I was born. Such “home going” is both painful and illuminating. Perhaps my lifelong struggle with melancholy and the dark side of life can be traced back to the fateful year of 1937, when I was born in Tianjin, China, on February 20 according

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Autobiography: Chapter 1 – Is There Life after 80?

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly instalments. Stay updated here. Chapter 1 – Is There Life after 80? The final time I visited my father in Hong Kong, he was in his 80s. He said to me, with downcast eyes and great sadness, “My life is hopeless. I am just sitting here waiting to die.” This image has haunted me for years—is there life after 80? Can there still be hope and meaning even in our advanced years? When I started doing research more than 30 years ago,

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Autobiography: Introduction

A Lifelong Search for Meaning: Lessons on Virtue, Grit, and Faith Dr. Paul T. P. Wong’s autobiography is published in weekly instalments. Stay updated here. Introduction I can no longer postpone this any longer—my 80th birthday is just around the corner. I owe it to my family and friends, indeed, to all my fellow human beings, to share the life lessons I have learnt the hard way, all the way down in the trenches of battlefields and deep in the dark jungles, blazing a new trail. Yes, I did not get to where I am today from where I was 60 years ago—an unemployed

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